Relax and let the stress go

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Sep 182016


Relaxing is an important part of our wellbeing.  It helps us to recover and recuperate and make it through the day.

We require rest to be healthy and to improve our lives.  If your constantly on the go or working. Thinking of things that don’t relax you, this is when your stress levels rise ever higher.

It’s been shown many times in medical journals that stress has a bad effect on the human body and mind so it’s up to us to try and manage that as best we can.

Whenever you can, just take a few moments for yourself and try to relax.  Try and take the thoughts and worries that are going through your mind and push them away.  Even if for a little while.

Do you remember some time in your past when life was better? When you were able to just have fun and have no cares?

One of my fondest memories is a summer I went on a holiday and stayed in a beach shack for a week.  If I wanted to swim I would walk across the small road and onto the beach and then into the water.  I could lay there on a towel with an old paperback that I loved to read but hadn’t read in a while.  I would lose myself in the pages and the worlds therein.

When I was hungry I would walk to the nearby shops and buy food to eat there or cook for myself when I got back to the shack.

One of the relaxing aspects of that holiday was I had no one else to worry about.  It was just me.  I had no schedule to keep and no one wanting to do things that I didn’t want to do.

Sometimes when I feel stressed, I use those memories as a mental relaxant.

I suggest you store up the good memories and bring them out when you need to.  Put them into your bag of tricks to bring out when needed.

With the bad memories we all have I suggest just letting them go.  They serve a purpose, but when we obsess on them it’s a negative response and its always best to let those go.

I have talked about having a relaxing time being on my own but don’t get me wrong.  I have also had some awesome times sharing experiences with people.

Interacting with and having people in your life that provide a positive experience can enrich us in unexpected ways.

That however is another story for another day.

Best Wishes.

Kevin James.


P.S.  I found this article on cnn which I thought was interesting.  Here the authors discuss the importance of taking a day off to rest.

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People being forced to work against their nature

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Sep 122016

Why do some companies think that people act unlike people?   The company I work for are rebuilding our office and making the space very sterile and unfriendly to people.

They are changing the space so no one has their own defined space.  So people are not supposed to personalize any desks or spaces.

The idea is that anyone can come into the office and sit anywhere.  They can move around the office and form working groups depending on the need.  They seem to feel that people don’t need any defined space but will just come in and use a desk, then next time they are in the office will move somewhere else.

I am not sure what ‘think tank’ these ideas have come from but I know from a lifetime of experience that people are more than that.  I suspect that the upper executives work that way themselves and believe that everyone should work that way.  They would go from building to building or group to group and have meetings and then move on to somewhere else.  They say that they will work this way themselves when they are in this office, but of course that’s how they work and I believe a majority of the people in the building don’t work that way.

People are territorial.  Before the changes being made were started, it was easy to tell that’s how people are.  If you went to any cube or office where people regularly sat you would see it for yourself.  People put up pictures of family or friends or movie posters or toys or products made by the company.

It was common to see cubes with stuffed toys or action figures and those with offices would have all manner of personalized items that by themselves were valuable and would be safe behind locked doors when the owners left for the day.

The company is going to move a lot of people from other buildings into ours to consolidate the space so I expect the main reason is so they can fit more people into smaller spaces.

This by itself isn’t a problem.  I don’t think there is a problem with the company wanting to be more efficient.  It has a duty to its shareholders to be more efficient and to save money where it can.

The problem I feel is when you treat people in a manner that against our nature.

So how about you?  Are you living your life in a manner that is against your nature?  Perhaps it’s time to examine your life.  Perhaps examine how you treat yourself.  Lets see if anything about that rings false.

We can be very good at hiding things from ourselves so it’s worthwhile just taking the time to look at things and see how we feel about them.


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New Site – Welcome

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Mar 032016

Hi.  I have setup this site so I can aggregate my writings and articles that were spread out over several websites.

Some of my writings have been published elsewhere on the internet but its spread out wide so this is now the main site for my writing and articles.

If your interested in Printing some of my articles I dont mind.  You do need to let me know in advance and you will need to make sure you attribute the article to myself.  You also need to put a link to my site so that people can read my other writings if they are interested.

Exclusivity is possible for some of my articles that are not currently in print, but we will need to discuss it further before anything is granted.

Contact me for further information.



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